Should Women be Allowed to Breastfeed in Public?
The issue sparked a protest in New Hampshire recently.
The Tooky Mills Pub in Hillsborough, NH recently made headlines for attracting a crowd.
According to WCVB, "dozens of mothers with babies" protested there "after they said a mother was asked to cover up while breastfeeding in the open."
"Organizers said local mother Jane Healy was eating dinner at the Tooky Mills Pub on Thursday and dealing with a fussy 10-month-old demanding to be fed. Healy said she started feeding the baby, exposing a breast in the restaurant dining room. falmouth
"Tooky Mills Pub said other customers complained, and when wait staff approached Healy to ask her if she would cover up, she took offense and left the restaurant," WCVB reported.
How do you feel about this issue?
Should women be allowed to breastfeed their children in restaurants and other public places? Should men be required to wear shirts in public?
Sound off in the comments.
RoadKillBill
7:02 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Absolutely, there is nothing more beautiful than a woman breast feeding a child. My wife breast fed all 3 of our children and there was nothing more sexy but not sexual in nature. But as much as it is natural to breast feed and a mothers right to do so, it should be done discreetly. A fair amount of these women want it to be "in your face" type of thing and show no discretion claiming it's their right and it's natural. While I feel it's OK to exercise your right to do that but it shouldn't come at the cost of other peoples rights.
There are other natural body functions as well. If those same mothers were having a picnic lunch in the park and someone came up to a tree next to them and urinated in plain view of them and their older children, they couldn't call 911 fast enough. But why? Isn't it natural to urinate? They would claim their rights were violated and shouldn't have to see that but its OK for them to do what they do in public. But if that same person went behind something or into the woods they would be exercising discretion. Which all of us should do. We become so self absorbed in our own wants and rights that we lose focus that others have rights as well.
Mel Cross
11:36 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
You are using common sense, and logic to communicate to the progressive mind....That is a daunting task.......................
Amelia Smith
7:40 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Why, oh why, would the diners in that restaurant prefer to have a screaming baby at the next table, making all conversation impossible?
Also, the analogy between breastfeeding and urination is poorly chosen. Yes, bodily fluids are involved in both instances, but breastmilk, when feeding, goes almost entirely into the baby and isn't scattered on shared surfaces. I don't see how public breastfeeding is a violation of others' rights. They can always look the other way, or leave if it is too offensive to them to see a baby's needs being met.
RoadKillBill
3:17 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Obviously I am all for the needs of a babys needs being met, sure. To say that milk doesn't escape is closed minded. I have 3 children that were breast fed and have seen it many times and that is not always without leakage or spillage. I will give you an example in how I shouldn't or anyone have to see it. Not that I think its disgusting, it's beautiful. But I was out to dinner in a fairly cozy upper scale restaurant, by that I mean close together. While I was enjoying dinner this woman started nursing her child right next me. She was within arms length close and I could hear her child nursing. While I wasn't looking but would look foolish with my fingers in my ears and didn't have the option not to listen. Granted at the time my wife was still nursing my son who was home. This woman could have easily gone to a private part of the restaurant or the restroom, but didn't. Why should I have to leave from anywhere? Don't I have a right to dine in peace? While breast feeding and urination are different in nature, the point is some people are offended by either one and discretion should be utilized as well as common sense. The world is not just about you and your baby. You share the earth with others and respect how they feel as well.
Janice Perry
8:08 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
When I choose to go out to dinner I certainly do not want to see an exposed breast when I am enjoying my food. Time the feedings or stay home!!!
Rana Weikel
1:44 am on Friday, August 24, 2012
Do you time your feedings? No I didn't think so. You eat when you are hungry and so will my child. I believe that a mother should use a nursing blanket or other blanket but should be able to feed her child whenever and wherever the child is hungry. A breast is a natural thing everyone has them what are you a juvenille and breast feeding is a natural thing it is more natural then formula and a bottle.
anne
8:15 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
It really is none of my business if someone is feeding their baby.
Seriously who cares?
sephra
8:24 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Telling a nursing mother to time the feedings or stay home is ridiculous. Don't want to see a baby nurse? DON'T LOOK! Simple!
Gail
1:46 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Exactly! I nursing both of my children. On demand. That's the whole point. Formula never touched their lips. How natural is a bottle?
T. Marie
8:28 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Janice are you really that offended? Maybe you should stay home!!! You can't always time a feeding & breast feeding moms shouldn't have to stay home or out of public for feeding their child, society has this so screwed up! Maybe all these little girls walking around with their breasts hanging out should stay home or woman wearing bathing suit tops that barely cover them should not be in the public scene ?! No one seems to care about them but a mother feeding her child which is natural is a problem?
kristen
8:37 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
@ roadkillbill: saying it is sexy defeats the whole message that a lot of these protesters are trying to get out there. Maybe you meant "beautiful"? However, my opinion is that, unfortunately, in this country, breasts will always be objectified in a sexual way.
RoadKillBill
2:54 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Sure maybe sexy is not the word but beautiful barely describes it how it made me feel about watching my wife feed my child. Maybe more attractive, nurturing and maybe it made me feel more love for her doing it But it was also done discreetly. Often times todays woman wants to be noticed doing it in public places as to say "look at me".
Barbara Mulvey-Welsh
8:41 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Of course they should and they should be discrete about it.
Mel Cross
2:03 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Barbra we agree.........
nancy shadyac
8:46 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Yes. If we are hungry, we eat so why deprive a babe who has no other way of communicating? Beauty has nothing to do with it. Its no different really than a cat feeding her kittens or any other animal. My daughter in law does and is discreet about it, and even then this man came up to her and leered, "I know what you are doing under there"!! If it were me, I'd have told him to back off as he had his turn already.
Mildred Roberts
10:12 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
I would draw the line at exposing BOTH breasts while feeding the baby.
Mel Cross
10:36 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Just more dilebrate breakdown of common sense and morality. A sensable mother would, bring the baby to a quiet location away from others to feed the baby. Most that insist on doing it in a restraunt are out to prove a point and dare you to say something. Why not change the baby on the table while you are at it...... it needs to be done, and it will keep the kid quiet while you are dining.............
Ayn Rand
12:29 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
A child is an unfinished creature upon entering the earth - it's connection to it's mother is not something that can be arrested without death. Does the smell of mother's milk ruin your meal in the same manner as human feces? This occurs with all common decency, and typically the mother drapes a cloth over the nursing child to protect her own modesty. To deny the child the right to feed is to deny it's purpose in life. Are you some sort of Marxist that wishes to deny human purpose for your own selfish reasons on the basis of a "moral requirement to our fellow man"? The child must eat, and your moral requirements are damned as stalinistic. Welcome to a free society.
RoadKillBill
3:27 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
It is amazing how quickly they turn it into "you are telling us not to feed our babies" isn't Mel? But neither you nor I are saying that I'm sure. Funny how a progressive mind only thinks about themselves and their rights but trample on yours.
Rana Weikel
1:48 am on Friday, August 24, 2012
Don't people go to a restaurant to eat? Your comment was very ignorant and you obviously didn't think it threw. A baby is hungry just as you are and you don't wait to eat so a baby shouldn't have to just because you are apparently juvenille and can't handle a mother feeding her child the way God intended and the most natural way more natural than formula and a bottle. I do think the mother should cover herself but not go to the bathroom or stay home. Would you like to eat in the bathroom? No, I didn't think so.
Susan Austin
11:04 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
What year is this? Are these people for real?
I can tell you that my response would be to smile and feel good upon seeing a happy healthy child
I had children in 1973 1975 and 1998 I breast feed them all. I remember my mother telling me stories about how she was told ( by my father) to go into the bedroom of her own home to bread feed . It brought back humiliating memories for her when I breast feed openly
If you think that was a good idea - putting women backwards in time - vote for Romney. Women will have no voice over their bodies once again!!!
Mel Cross
11:16 am on Sunday, August 12, 2012
No one is saying to go in a bathroom, but not in a restraunt, have some decency. Obumer, you know the community organizer, with no abitlty to lead this failing nation is not the answer either.......He may let you breast feed in the restraunt, but that restraunt won't be there much longer if the economy continues to tank.
Buseybee
2:57 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Susan is correct. I hate to turn breastfeeding into a political issue but that's apparently been done. I cannot stand to see the President's name twisted the way so many of your ilk do. His name is President Barack Hussein Obama. Be respectful of the office if nothing else. Get used to it. He be around for another four years.
And as far as breastfeeding goes, grow up! There is nothing wrong with breastfeeding anywhere when the child is hungry. Most women are very discreet. Keep your eyes on your own plate and let the baby keep his eye on Mom.
Mel Cross
4:13 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Many of the fringe element here are missing the point. It is ok ( actually good) to breast feed, but be reasonable where it is done. Be descrete about it, throw a blanket or a scarf over. Just plain common sense, sometimes is tough to explain to some in todays society....
Gail
4:22 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Yes, Mel. Not to mention -- they make some baby slings specifically for breastfeeding, with a discreet cover that can be used. I was a very "awkward" nurser -- much more comfortable away from people. Don't know how I would feel about a table in a restaurant, any more than I would want to watch somebody change a diaper in a restaurant.
RoadKillBill
6:29 am on Monday, August 13, 2012
@Patricia Brendel Why are you accusing Mel of making it political? When it was clearly Susan Austin that fired the first salvo of political bunk. But I guess people of your ilk never let facts and common sense get in the way of your beliefs.
alfred e neuman
1:21 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
ah yes... this story reminds me of my first meal...i'm still a big baby...
MillicentBroderick
1:30 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
It is very easy to drape a light weight baby blanket - or even a chic scarf while feeding the baby. Has been done for generations. Moderation in all things. Baby must be fed but that activity should fit in with the rest of acceptable societal behavior. Contact your local La Leche league for info on breast feeding. It is a great support group which promotes breastfeeding.
Zeke Vought
1:44 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Are you people absolutely kidding me? Do we live in a communist. Oh try where the essence of life is something to scoff at and be uncomfortable around? How many of you idiots opposed to this are pro life? We have evolved as a society of intellectuals, but apparently a lot of us have not. If the woman strips off her clothes and parades around with the baby hanging from her nipple maybe I could see an issue here. But I bet most of you cnt keep yourself from staring and trying to catch a peak of the nipple and that makes you uncomfortable. A BABY NEEDS TO BE FED, WHEN IT IS HUNGRY. Breast feeding is the most natural thing you could possibly do. How about you self centered, sexually disturbed Hippocrates get a clue.
Mel Cross
2:13 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
No, but we are getting close to a communist country...........If the follower of marx is put in office 4 more years............
Buseybee
2:59 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
I totally agree with you. Mel is really being childish and trying to turn this into a political statement. More breastfeeding and 4 more years for Obama!
Zeke Vought
1:45 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
U have got to be kidding me
Zeke Vought
1:51 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Maybe we should make all mothers wear a burka while they are outside. Or when you have a baby, you have to stay in the house until the kid is 4, or stone her while she's BREAST FEEDING HER CHILD you morons
Mel Cross
2:22 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
name calling.........good way to get your point across.
I believe the ovewhelming message is use some decency.........cover up, don't make a specticle of it. Attempt to do in in reasonable place. Common sense approach to something that should not be a big deal.
Buseybee
3:00 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Somehow I suspect that it's Mel who makes a spectacle of it! As I said Mel, grow up.
Zeke Vought
3:19 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
I'm aware name calling is a bit rude and childish, however this line of thinking completely undermines the progress we have achieved as humans. We are not senseless barbarian teenagers who grab our nipple baring women by the hair and drag them away. This whole discussion is ludicrous. its the same as walking down the street and seeing a low cut shirt, you don't run up to that person and tell them to go home and change, its none of your business, look away.
Rick Hamilton
2:35 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Breast feeding is nature's way of providing the perfect nourishment and bonding for growing a healthy human being. Do some soul searching if you have a little problem with it.
Zeke Vought
3:19 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
exactly
Mel Cross
3:20 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Patricia......Patricia.......lets not be childish. I made a reasonable point and do believe that most people would perfer that common sense toward decency would prevail..
Janet Thompson
6:35 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Janet
I can't believe it, nothing, has changed. Nursing is still stirring things up. I nursed my 2 children, one for 2 yrs and the other for 2 1/2 yrs in the mid 70's and early 80's. I always covered my breast with a thin cotton diaper by Curity. Now, you can't find any thin 100 % cotton diapers thanks to disposables. For a baby, nursing is hard work. They have sweat beading up on their nose and forehead. The nursing Mom's body temperature is always higher than 98.6 until she weans the baby. Her body is a warm in order to keep her milk warm. Do I say cover up? Yes, indeed,
but it is easier said than done. There are very few light weight cotton fabrics available to use as cover-ups. Mom's need to dress light which can be a challenge. Let's try not to judge them too harshly, who wants to spend all of their time in the Ladies Room.
Elizabeth
7:00 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
I nursed three children in late 60's when it was unfashionable. There was little support for nursing mothers even from the medical community. Breastfeeding in public was totally forbidden. It's good that nursing mothers are supported and encouraged. However, common sense must prevail.
I don't see the problem of one of a nursing mother. I see the problem is one where one is trying to dine with a baby who might become cranky and interere with others' enjoyment of their dinners. I spent a lot of time entertaining three children away from other diners as soon as I felt that they would disturb others.
There are so many options for clothing and underclothing for nursing mothers. Sensitivity to others must rule. A table could have been chosen where the chair could have been turned away from other diners.
Babies should be breast fed, but, perhaps, not taken out to restaurant dinners unless there is easy opportunity or nursing discreetly.
Shawn Porter
8:51 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
This story stinks. She "accidentally" get this story out on the "National week of breastfeeding". Calling radio, TV and newspapers to encourage the coverage of her "nurse -in" and highlight HER right to breastfeed just shows how far some people would go to get their 15 minutes of fame. No class, no modesty or common sense.
Elaine Bartlett
10:43 pm on Sunday, August 12, 2012
Within reason. There is no reason a woman can't cover up with a light cloth or blanket. You do not have to disrobe for all to see. Yes it's natural, but a bit of modesty is appropriate.
Elaine
Catherine Lichoulas
12:53 am on Monday, August 13, 2012
It's not that hard to try to be discreet when nursing... I nursed in public all the time, with some type of nursing blanket for privacy. No big deal.
Catherine
Elly
1:15 am on Monday, August 13, 2012
Yes on both topics!!
Buseybee
10:47 pm on Thursday, August 16, 2012
@RoadKillBill
Here's the quote I was referring to:
"Obumer, you know the community organizer, with no abitlty to lead this failing nation is not the answer either.......He may let you breast feed in the restraunt, but that restraunt won't be there much longer if the economy continues to tank."
Sure sounds like a political slap at the President to me. I probably would have ignored it if Mel hadn't deliberately twisted President Obama's name, denigrated his service as a "community organizer", slammed his performance as president under very difficult if not impossible conditions in the Republican/TeaParty led House. BTW Mel could use a spelling lesson too.
RoadKillBill
5:47 am on Friday, August 17, 2012
@Patricia Brendel
Are you ignoring the fact that @SusanAustin clearly made it into a political issue by bringing in Romney's name? But I know how progressives,liberals and the like ignore facts because it gets in the way of their thinking and beliefs. While I will agree Mel is not the best at spelling but you go and type BTW which shows the maturity of a teenager. This where you post,you are not texting here. Mel can have his opinion, what concern of it of yours? You seem to spout your opinion of Mel, so whats the difference? Seeing that you are an avid Obama supporter you probably had some choice thoughts and words about George W. Bush I'm sure. Here is another fact you obviously want to ignore is that Mr Obama had control of both house and Senate and failed to get anything significant done in his first 2 years. The only thing he got done in those 2 years was triple the debt. You can not spend your way out of debt, it is a failed way of thinking. It might have been a good short term solution,but wasn't, either way it saddles future generation with his debt to try to make himself look good.Sorry another fact.
Margaret Carroll-Bergman
5:53 am on Friday, August 17, 2012
Let's keep on topic: Should women breastfeed in public.
Brittany
2:10 am on Friday, August 24, 2012
I believe a woman should be allowed to breastfeed anywhere child and mother are both allowed (which is law in most states now). I do not believe a woman should HAVE to cover up. The argument with the mother going to a discreet part of a restaurant to breastfeed because of the sounds of the baby eating is ridiculous. The sounds would be just about the same had the baby been drinking from a bottle or even louder from self feeding. People have to listen to other people eat every day. You cannot tell me you have NEVER sat near a person who chewed with their mouth open. Did you ask that person to go eat in a discreet part of the restaurant because you didn't want to hear them eat?? Of course not, that would be rude. Asking a mother do take her child somewhere else to eat just because you don't like it is rude as well. Also as long as the mother wasn't baring her entire breast there shouldn't be a problem with her not covering up. I have breastfed many many times without a cover and without showing anything. Even when my daughter would quickly move I would have my shirt or something prepared in such a way it would cover any "nip slip." And asking a mother to put a cover over her child while feeding is ridiculous. Would you like to eat with a blanket over your head?? I doubt it, why should the child?? My daughter hated being covered and would stop eating if she was covered. She also got sick from it. Would you like the child to vomit while you are eating dinner or just eat??
Patrick
9:04 am on Friday, August 24, 2012
Everyone is so angry all the time. Can we, at least, agree on what to call people around here? If we're going to use generalities and rhetoric to label people, lets simplify it.
From now on, anyone who could be considered left of your opinion can simply be referred to as "Dirty Hippy". Anyone to the right of your opinion can be called "Redneck". These terms encompass everything one group dislikes about the other while not being overly offensive. They have the added benefit of being easy to spell.
As for those who completely disagree with you, instead of labelling them Socialist, Communist, Marxist, Daoist, etc. They shall all just now be labelled either as Nazis or as Hitler. We already have Godwin's Law firmly in place, why fiddle with a good thing.
These are just some of the changes that will take place once I am elected Overlord of the Known and as yet Unknown Universe (or OKUU pronounced oh-koo) this November that will make all of your lives better.
For instance, once I am OKUU, no one will be permitted to wear clothing anywhere at any time. This simple decision eliminates this controversy as well as issues with school uniforms, gang colors and what to wear on a first date just to name a few.
You are welcome.
Remember, this Novemeber vote Patrick for OKUU. Nudity and Pie for Everyone!
Zeke Vought
9:28 am on Friday, August 24, 2012
This whole topic is absurd. And I can't. Elieve there is any discussion contrary to a mother feeding her child wherever and whenever they need to.